Being a people pleaser is something that can get a bad wrap, but in many ways the intention of the people pleaser is very well meaning. They want everyone to be happy and they want to control people and situations so that the outcome is positive for everyone involved. In reality though, it’s a power struggle and believe it or not can be manipulative. Those being manipulated know it and they become resentful. Having strong willed children, who make their own choices, can be a challenge for any parent but for people pleasing parents this can often be the worst case scenario because they will try to find where they went wrong, what they could have done differently, and where they need to gain back control. But children are just like anyone else, they can’t be controlled. They have their own agency and want to make their own decisions.